I often encounter coaching clients challenged by a lack of self-confidence. When trying to move into new seasons or spheres of influence while lacking character capital to sustain a new level of performance, we may dial back our level of engagement or withdraw
altogether. There may be several causes of sagging confidence but one sure-fire way to unravel confidence is by falling out of integrity with yourself.
Here is a good way to begin strengthening self-confidence:
First of all, consider what creates the confidence you may have in others. Most people find they have confidence in people who keep their promises. When people follow through with what they say they will do, your emotional investment in their character increases. You have confidence in them. Why would that not be the same with ourselves? By keeping small commitments to yourself you can gradually build confidence in yourself. By failing to keep our commitments, we slowly erode our character thereby losing confidence in our ability to follow through or perform when the pressure is on.
Try this:
Make small commitments to yourself then watch over your word to perform it. If you say you are going to get
up at a certain time of the day to work out or to have prayer, then do everything you can to follow through.
Push yourself in the morning to keep that promise. Then make another commitment and be very intentional with follow-through. In time you will begin to trust your own words. Eventually your confidence in yourself, in your ability to follow through will increase empowering you for what’s Next!
A Great Thought:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson
